Most people suffering from lack of confidence tend to blame this on their own selves. You need to first understand and accept that this is no fault of yours. Each individual suffering from this lack of confidence has different factors contributing to this. Your childhood experiences, genes, cultural background are some of the many factors due to which you suffer from lack of confidence. There are ways and means to tackle this lack of self-confidence and thus, there is no need of taking any tension.
1. Temperament and Genes:
Self-confidence is molded by specific elements right at birth. Research has proved that the makeup of genes can affect the amount of self-confidence chemicals. Almost 50 percent of the traits which are linked to confidence are inherited.
There are specific behavioral aspects which stem from your temperament. In case you are watchful and hesitant naturally, in circumstances which are unfamiliar, you might be having behavioral inhibition. In a specific situation you need to check and find out if everything is in accordance to your expectations and if this is not so you tend to move away from there. If you are a reserved and cautious individual, there are chances that confidence has eluded you.
2. Misinformation:
Lack of self-confidence can also be due to not being aware of the rules of the ‘confidence’ game. You can set yourself up for failure if you think you need to feel confident in order to act confident. You need to accept the fact that no one is perfect. This perfectionism can lead to a lack of self-confidence.
3. External Factors causing Lack of self-confidence:
Most often this lack of self confidence is due to different interactions and experiences you go through at a young age. Some of the factors leading to this lack of self-confidence are
*Being bullied by supervisors, peers at work place.
*Verbal put-downs frequently.
*Living through circumstances which are difficult like illness, divorce, poverty, unemployment or even single parenting.
*Getting involved in abusive or toxic relationships.
4. Depression and Anxiety:
Confidence issues go hand in hand with anxiety and depression. If you are going through a treatment for anxiety and depression it is advisable to bring up the self confidence issues with your therapist.
Few tips which can help you deal with this problem of lack of self confidence are
*Stop comparing yourself to others. You need to accept the fact that no two individuals are the same and each one of us has different abilities and capabilities.
*Make an effort to love yourself. Challenge the negative thoughts which are crowding your mind.
*It is easy to get affected when things do not go your way. Get out of this mind-set and try to focus on what you can do.
*Doing things which give you joy can bring in the positivity you are looking for. Scheduling ‘me-time’ every day is one way to go about this.
*Be considerate and helpful to those around you and you find that there is a boost to your moods. Do not give up and suffer the lack of self confidence, do something about this as soon as you can.